Often times, when we think about achieving success and becoming happy, we place all our focus on the giant things such as the skills you can acquire, the resources we can tap into and the rest of them. We cling on to negative habits that pull us down and ought to be ditched and forget that big victories in life arise from the small wins we can achieve in our closets.
Here is a list of 11 things you should give up to achieve success and become happy:
Destroy - social anxiety and pressure
Never allow yourself to be overwhelmed with the fear of missing out. If you miss out on an opportunity, stay positive and believe that other opportunities will spring up. If other people’s lifestyle leaves you feeling inferior and unhappy then you need to get a grip on this “FOMO” shit. You should lift this burden that leaves you with a sense of inadequacy and constant comparison of your status with others off your shoulders.
Destroy - your strive for flawlessness
There’s a thin line between your desire for improvement and your desire for perfection. The desire for perfection is born out of your fear of losing. You could set high standards for yourself to keep you motivated and focused but when these standards become unrealistic or unachievable, anxiety creeps in. You should come to the realisation that nobody is perfect and all you can do is put in your best. You are human and you are liable to make mistakes but it does not mean you are a failure.
Destroy - your expectation of appreciation
Your measure of success should not be dependent on the praise you receive from others to boost your ego. You could praise and encourage yourself to do more after completing a major milestone but do not wait for others to do it for you because it may never come. You should only learn from constructive criticisms doled on you because it’ll help you improve a great deal.
Destroy - your self-defeating and negative mindset
There are moments in life when we feel stressed out and it seems that things are not going as you planned. This should not be an opportunity to turn against you and feed on negative self-talk. Reframe your negative thoughts into positive thoughts. Your thoughts go a long way in shaping who you become.
Destroy - the need to always be right
Be open-minded to criticisms and feedbacks. People may attempt to bruise your ego with their words and actions, but you should not be quick to take offence. You should also not take criticisms personal but rather regard it as an act of love aimed at making you better.
Destroy - the mindset of insufficiency
Your beliefs affect the way you see the world. When you tune-in your mindset from scarcity to that of abundance, you reinforce your mentality with the belief that you have unlimited opportunities and unexplored territories before you.
Destroy - being resistant to change
Be flexible. You should always have the willingness to embrace change. If you do not embrace change, you are bound to become stagnant. It takes courage for you to let go of the familiar and embrace the new.
Destroy - emotion based decision making
Your emotions are a temporary state of mind; do not make crucial decisions based on your emotions. Be a master of your emotions. When you feel your emotions are not in check, cultivate the habit of waiting to be clear-headed before making decisions that determine your success.
Destroy- the expressions of pessimism of others
The less you respond to negative people, the more peaceful your life will be. Do not allow the negativity of others weigh you down and as much as possible avoid negative-minded people. Stand out. You should always approach issues in a positive way. Associate with positive-minded people.
Destroy - comparing yourself with others
Do you compare yourself to others around you? Its just because you lack motivation. You are not motivated enough to focus on your path to achieve better. Cultivate the habit of counting your blessings and focusing on your strengths rather than comparing your shit with the ones around you. People are different and so it their goals and behaviour. Comparing yourself to other is only a waste of time for you and it showcases your insecurity about your own personality.
Destroy - doubtful feelings about your abilities
Self-doubt draws you back from seizing opportunities. It attacks your confidence and self-esteem. You should realise that it’s not what you are that is holding you back but who you think you are. Believe in yourself because no one else will.
The reality is that the key to success lies in your ability to let go of these negative behavioural patterns. You must have the willingness to let go and embrace change, lose temporary comfort and be the better for it. If you do not sacrifice your negative side to achieve your desired success, then your desired success will be the sacrifice.
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